Accepting Compliements
Accepting compliments without guilt feelings is very challenging. People have trouble getting words of praise for several reasons hard accepting compliments. First, we feel it is tied to social anxiety. In addition, it reveals our feelings of low self-esteem. Third, it makes us think that we must return the compliment.
Why It Is Hard to Accept Compliments
Accepting words of praise is hard since we are puzzled about why the nice things are said about us. Therefore, we tend to downgrade the compliment by showing others we don’t engage in self-praise. For example, a co-worker thanks you for doing such an outstanding informative financial presentation; your response is,” oh, thank you, that was an ok presentation.” Your answer lowers the high-ranking complement to average performance.
Partial acceptance of a compliment manifests when we change our compliment’s reference to something or someone else. For instance, a friend compliments you on your hairstyle. However, you credit your successful hairdo to your hairdresser. Another illustration is a guy receiving a compliment on his fashion statement. Instead of being thankful, he immediately replies that my wife made me wear this old suit. Accepting compliments has not been easy for us.
Accepting a compliment (partial) is visual when we return the compliment in kindness. This is visual when receiving praise about our appearance or performance, and we reciprocate with ” oh, you look nice or perform well too.
Wellness Benefit for Accepting The Compliment
There are holistic wellness benefits to accepting compliments. First, it is a confidence builder. We begin to recognize and accept our self-value in sharing our gifts and talents. Next, we portray spark creativity. We feel more appreciated, and we are motivated to communicate more frequently. Third, we are building more trust within our relationships. Finally, being receptive to verbal praise benefits the giver.
Summary
Accept the compliment by saying, “Thank you.” Ignore and remove the feelings to downgrade the complement. Accept the words of praise with an attitude of gratitude. On the other hand, remove the thought of figuring out the other’s person’s motive for complimenting you.
