Ladies’Relationship Perspective

Ladies’ relationship perspective can be superficial; therefore, give youself  a chance to balance out your breakup relationship perspectives (wants and needs). Also gives time for self-analysis. First, let’s define perspective. The definition is a particular attitued or way of regarding something. Before getting into the acronym of love, ask yourself did you enter the relationship with selfless love “or”for self-fulfillment?

As I ponder of a past breakup relationhip, I remembered my mother telling me you are not to married missionary project. If you want to help the hunger, safe souls, mother the motherless then go into the mission field. I realized that I had married a mission and was trying to mother instead of being a helpmeet.

Love Acronym

The love acronym can be veiwed from various prespective. The first anlysis of love in a breakup relationship is the L in Love. We must let go of self-goals, preceived outcomes, and unrealistic expectations. For example he can read our thoughts. My spouse already knows how to wine and dine me. On the other hand, treat him like your father. Finally, in the realationship he lets me have my way all the time. Question to aks ourselves, are we being realistic in our preceptions of his treatment towards you without you communicating your needs?

Second is the O in Love. Open-ended questions and honest combination within a breakup relationship. When you did not understand the situation, did you ask for clarification? The times you were upsest and angry about his actions towards you, did you let him know in a respectful manner? In addtion,were you able to be yourself or did you act according to his expectations and regrade it later?

Third, the V in Love. Take the time without guilt feelings to think about were you very respectful and your ex-spouse personality, character and lifestyle interactions? Within your relationship was your partner an introvt, extrover. His family values were you able to respect them even when they confliced with your traditional upbringing?

Finally, the E in Love. This challenges your endless forgiviness level. When conflict or confusion manifest were you able to forgive him and yourself? On the other hand, did you always remind your spouse of the hurtful deeds, actions or words he dais in the past during the present argument? The hurtful feeling you encounter during the confrontation was it triggered from a past relationship that you brougt into the present relationship?

Moving Forward

Ok the relationship is over, don’t be so hard on yourself. Look at this self-evaluation as a way to prepare you for your next relationships (if that is what you desire). Right now take the time to practice, self-compassion and use of perspective lens to meditate over the unexpected benefits of a breakup.Know that grief Can Manifest In different ways.

Now,coping with the loss of a relationship, you have to adapt to a new lifestyle while enduring feelings and emotions. Also, you can reinvest In Yourself. First, engage in self-compassion through pampering sessions, Next, take some educational courses Or try a , new career move. Third, try some personal development skills. Finally, take control over your healthcare, fitness and wellbeing.

You can pour into other relationships. Yes,now is the time to Invest in friends and family. Also, you can apply what you’ve learned to future relationships, Now, you have Self-confidence and know what you want/don’t want in a lasting relationship. Next, you are aware of your tolerance level and what you are willing to sacrifice.

Summary

You have a renewed sens of energy. You are not able to see, accept, and change your self-perception of your relationship goals. How?  Through this self-evaluation of yourself, input into the relationship and the output your received.

Ladies, I am not saying you should ignore  your feelings of being hurt, disappointed, or loneliness; However,now you can, (at your own time pace, move forward with a better self-understanding of who you are, and what you are expecting, accepting, and looking forward to in a future relationship.

Always remember, You are fearfully and wonderfully made.