Being Assertive Shows
Being assertive shows that you respect yourself because you’re willing to stand up for your interests and express your thoughts and feelings. It also demonstrates that you know others’ rights and are eager to work on resolving conflicts. It’s the ability to speak up for us in a way that is honest and respectful
Here’s What It Means To Be Assertive
When assertive, you can give an opinion or say how you feel. You can ask for what you want or need. Then, as you interact with others, you can disagree respectfully.
First, make sure that you don’t make it personal when you disagree respectfully. Next, try to avoid putting down the other person. Third, stay away from blaming others. Fourth, use the statement I feel vs. you make me. In addition, listen to others’ viewpoints without being judgmental. Finally, stay calm (breathe through it)
Also, you can offer your ideas and suggestions through your spoken words. But, most importantly, you can say no without feeling guilty. And you can speak up for someone else.
Benefits Of Being An Assertive Teen
You, as an assertive teen, believe that your opinions count. First, a self-confident person knows his/her ideas and feelings matter, and he/she has the right to express him/herself. Second, they are resilient (able to deal with criticism, rejection, and setbacks). Third, a confident teenager respects the preferences and needs of others. Finally, they have role models who illustrate assertiveness.
Assesterive Skills Practice: Less Passive
Overcoming being a less passive person, pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, needs, and desires. Your awareness of self-actions, words, and deeds prepares you to interact with others better. Be aware of your word choices when asked what you want. Make sure you don’t get caught saying, “I don’t care, I don’t know, or it doesn’t matter.” Prayerfully give your honest opinion when asked (make sure they want it)
Assertive skill practice: Less Aggressive
On the other hand, being less aggressive allowsothers to speak first. Also, notice how often you interrupt others. Second, make sure you apologize when you stop someone from speaking. Third, ask for others’ opinions and make sure you are an attentive listener. In addition, when disagreeing, do it so that you are not putting down the other person. Finally, find a role model who is good at being assertive.
Summary
Being an assertive teen allows you to interact with others and appreciate and respect their input. Yet, you can be yourself simply.
